How To Control Anger

Many of us at times have been upset. Being upset is a part of life. Not all things will go the way you want them to go. When this upset turns to anger we must be careful how we handle ourselves.

Here are 4 steps to control your anger and have it vent in proper ways.

1. Count to 10 when you are getting upset. This is a normal way that we have all heard. We have heard it because it works if you practice it. Count to 10 and you may solve many of your outbursts before they happen.

2. Do something that is physically exerting. Instead of punching a wall or a person, go run around the house, or mow the yard. Go for a walk, swim, bikeride, or shoot some hoops. This can provide a physical outlet for your emotions.

3. Find something that is calming. Try deep breathing from your diaphragm. Take 10 deep calming breaths. This can be very soothing for most people. Combine this with step 1 and count to 10 slowly while breathing.

4. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. I am frustrated because you didn't help with the housework, instead of You didn't help me with the housework. This helps in multiple ways one is your way of thinking is a bit better and you also do not upset the other person so that both parties are angry. Which of course is not a good outcome for anyone.

You can combine multiple steps above to help alleviate anger. Don't hold it in, but don't blow up. Calm yourself down and talk about it by using step number 4 above. Go for a swim or a nice shower, and you can alleviate the stresses that cause unhealthy anger.

A skill set called leadership

I must say, I’m not sure that I possess this skill set as of yet. I would like to…. But, I’m not sure I have it in me right now.  You see, leadership is about being persuasive, having a vision and strategy, being able to make quick decisions, communicating, developing and planning.

As a student who is about to embark on the “real” world, I feel these qualities will come in time? I hope!  Right now it is my feeling that as a youngster going into the industry, my leadership qualities are surely not very high as I still need to learn, grow and find my own feet right?

There are many people in the world who possess a high skill set of leadership…. Mandela…. Margaret Thatcher…. Obama…. and even the long passed Princess Di.  These people possess leadership!! I hope that I will be able to rock mad leadership skills like these amazing people one day.  What I do know? It’ll take time… LOTS of practice and perhaps balls?? Being a leader is not easy… but I am pretty sure we’re all willing to give it a shot.

When Choosing A Life Partner!

                                             

Seeking a right life partner is not a child’s play. As it is not the selection for one month, one year or one decade. It is the matter of choosing a person for life time. So it is extremely important to be very careful in selecting a life partner so that you could live a happy life and this relation should be everlasting.

The divorce rate around the world is very high and is increasing day by day. The main reason is not choosing an appropriate life partner and the result comes in the end of that relation. Followings are the basic rules to think if anybody is looking for life partner:

Why Get Married?

This is a very important question you need to ask from yourself, because mostly people do not find any clear reason for marriage. You need to consider before planning for marriage. Make a list of reasons on a paper. First write plus points, then negative points and find most interesting point of the marriage. It will solve most of your tension & give you clear picture altogether about searching for a life partner. You should always focus that you are seeking for someone with whom you will spend your entire life & build a family.

Things You Want In Life Partner

Again you should list down on the paper that what you want see in your life partner. Many people get married for different reasons, one of the main reasons is money. Think of all the things you want in your life partner and see if anyone fits in your criteria.

Consult With Your Relatives Or Friends:

Marriage cannot be decided by one person or it is hard to take decision by you. Seeking help from someone, particularly from parents, relatives, and trustworthy members of the society is a good idea and is mandatory to know about important information about your spouse.

See If She/he Is Best Match:

It is very important to know whether your prospective partner is a best match for you. Try to have meetings with her/him and spend time in conversation to get to know the nature of your prospective partner. It is true that you cannot find 100 percent features in your partner and you need to compromise at some level and this the best way for a successful marriage. Nevertheless, If you think she/he does not seem a best match then try for someone else instead of wasting time with him/her.

Don’t Get Trapped In Rumors

It is likely that negative rumors may come about your partner. Do not pay attention on any negative rumor about your prospective partner or you should not stop your marriage process because of rumors. If this happens, you should talk with your partner and give a chance to clarify the reasons about a rumor.

Don’t Compare Your Requirement From our Friends Or Relatives:

Always take into account your own requirement instead of imitating your friends or relatives and thinking about prospective partner should be a decisive factor in marriage process & there is no harm in taking any suggestions but last decision must be yours with the unanimous willing of all your relatives, parents & trustworthy friends.

                                             

“Rock journalism is people who can’t write interviewing people who can’t talk for people who can’t read” (Frank Zappa)

Frank Vincent Zappa was born on December 21, 1940, and passed away on December 4, 1993. He was an American composer, electric guitarist, record producer, and film director. Throughout his career he wrote rock, jazz, electronic, orchestral, and musique concrète works. Zappa produced more than 60 albums with the band Mothers of Invention and as a solo artist.

Many of his albums are remembered in rock and jazz history. He is regarded as one of the most original guitarists and composers of his time. He remains a major influence on musicians and composers. Frank was posthumously inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 1995 and received the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award in 1997.
Here are a few of his quotes:

- It is always advisable to be a loser if you cannot become a winner.
- A mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it's not open.
- If we can't be free at least we can be cheap.
- Sometimes you got to get sick before you can feel better.
- Let's not be too rough on our own ignorance, it's what makes America great.
- Information is not knowledge. Knowledge is not wisdom. Wisdom is not truth. Truth is not beauty. Beauty is not love. Love is not music. Music is THE BEST.
- Beauty is a pair of shoes that makes you wanna die.

And my FAVORITE:
- May your shit come to life and kiss you on the face.