Life is Too short

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe things happen for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

• Life is too short not to make the best and the most of everything that comes your way everyday.

• Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of.

• Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think.

• Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.

• Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.

• And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years

• To change one’s life: Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.

• If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You have another chance.

We aren’t here to make things perfect. We are here to make mistakes and, in the process, live fully.

List your top 200 achievements

If allowed, I would do just that, listing my top 200 achievements but I have been limited from writing even an A4 page blog. Actually, I would write far beyond 200 accomplishments, for each day I live since I was born is an achievement. However, being human makes me take life for granted. In our daily lives we plan and set objectives, though, we plan and set goals without knowing if tomorrow will come.

I don’t have to mention what I have achieved because it will sound as though I want to prove a point. Well, there is no statement to make because my whole life is a success. Every day that comes I learn something new and I build on it, the following day the same happens and so does life goes on. I believe in learning and developing on what I have learnt and therefore, take each process an achievement.

Nonetheless, the list would begin as follows; the first day I was born, I learnt how to cry, how to lactate, smile, differentiate between my mother and others, walk, talk, read and write and so on ........ the list will go on. Just to give you a hint, my exceptional achievement has been graduating from Cape Peninsula University of Technology (CPUT).

Why can’t I rely on others?

I have a huge problem with it. I don't even like asking for help if I can avoid it. I don't trust many people at all and when it comes to friendships and my relationship it can become a problem. To the point where the people I love beg me to trust them. It's something I'm trying to get through and it's very tough.

The reason why I can’t rely on others anymore is the fact that there is no such thing called a true friend, because I have been thinking of people that used to be my best friends, people that I trusted and share everything with them and got to a stage that they are go and they don’t even think of me.

This problem is also happening to our families, where people rely on their big brothers in terms supporting them when they need their support. But because of for example that brother get married and he doesn’t care anymore about his family and his younger brothers are suffering while he is the bread winner at home.

In most cases you will find this in our parents, where they don’t treat their children the same. For example parents always spoil their last born by giving him/her everything he/she wants, something that they never done to others. So these experiences made me not to rely on others anymore.

 

What motivates me?

I think you like it when someone does something nice for you. Well, most people like it too. In fact, we all do. But you should not be at the receiving end all the time. You must also learn to serve others. It is true that many people do not do that. Most people want others to serve them, but that should not be the case always.

Jesus washed the feet of His disciples to demonstrate to them the importance of serving others to make them humble. He didn't want them to think about themselves alone but about others too.

During this Christmas holidays, learn to serve your parents, siblings and other people in your neighbourhood, especially the elderly. It is not hard to serve other people. If you watch closely, you will discover many things that you can do for others. You can for instance, help your mother with cooking, cleaning and also doing the marketing at home. If you have younger siblings you can help take care of them.

For me it’s what motivates me to help other people. It motivates me to help people in my environment maybe they are struggling with something, by helping them and solved that problem I become motivated a lot. Even when I was a little boy at primary school my friends knew me as a helpful person that they can rely on.

Helping others I would say it’s something that I was born with because I still do that as I’m becoming a big man.

How to be a kind person/Good person

Treat others the way you want to be treated. And respect them for who they are. Don’t change them. Even though some people may not be nice to you at first, they will come around eventually.

If you're still attending school you must make sure to steer clear of drama and gossip. If someone decides to randomly gossip to you,"Hey did you hear what Sue said about Mary?", simply walk away. Its really that easy.

If you get annoyed by someone try to remember they're probably unaware that they are being

annoying. Keep positive.

Assume the best about people. Most people don't mean to insult or offend others most of the time. Unless it's overt, assume the slight was accidental.

Bad language, gossiping, whining, selfishness and greediness don't mix with being nice.

Hold the door open for someone who is approaching the door the same time you are. Allow them to go in ahead of you. Do the same if you are leaving a store, hold the door open wide, and allow whoever is leaving to leave before you.

If you are sitting, and you see an older, pregnant, ill person or someone with a baby or small children standing, offer them your seat if there are no other free seats close by.

Remember using vulgar language won't make a very good impression

Be courteous.

The most unexpected consequences of being online

Many of us spend hours online and these days – its not just about finding information – it’s also about engaging in conversations and exploring the randomness of the great world wide web. Our hours of browsing and engaging it seems also come with some unexpected consequences – some good…some bad. Here’s my list of some of those consequences:

1. Finding an old school friend from primary or secondary years – I think just about everyone can relate to finding Natasha after 10 years

2. Having an argument with someone you don’t even know – it’s a looooong story, it happened via email and had nothing to do with work

3. “Forgot your password?” … thankfully just about every site is equipped to “reset” those gazillion passwords we accumulate.

4. The joys of online banking!!! – yaaaaaay! Transacting by a coupla clicks here and there has changed paying bills which could take all day to just a few minutes… love it!

5. Checking out reviews of a product or service ahead of a possible purchase – its reeeeaally helpful to know about others experiences when considering something new

6. Freedom of expression!! – I just love the fact that I can air my views, concerns and opinions with no consideration of censorship at all … clearly.

7. The randomness of searching for really random information and actually getting hits – yes midgets can have babies and babies can be perfectly normal.

8. Chatting and catching up with a friend in London, Cayman Islands or India- its like they’re just around the corner and have never left….although ye… nothing beats face to face – miss u Claire!

9. When last have you received a handwritten birthday card?…. a bit of a sentimental-I tend to hold onto these things and loved the little thoughtful notes … precious. These days… Facebook or an email seems to do the trick- its impersonal man!

10. Your whole life splattered across an array of social media networks… there is no such thing as secrets my friend and don’t even try to keep anything to yourself… if its not on your page somewhere – its on a friend’s or somewhere – some poor woman found pics of her husband’s wedding….er yes… her husband’s wedding… what a way to find out.